A Community of Women First Responders

First Responder Wives & Girlfriends

 

RESILIENCE ACADEMY

 

Devoted to Thriving as a First Responder Family

If you’re a First Responder, Spouse or Significant Other

looking to know how to support, connect and communicate with your First Responder 

while achieving a revitalized, happy and resilient self ...

you are in the right place!

 

  • You want to be the best possible partner to your First Responder.
  • You feel alone especially in the current climate with how the public is reacting to First Responders.
  • You fear your partner's safety in the middle of a pandemic and protests.
  • You wonder how to maintain connection and how to support your First Responder through difficult times.
  • You fear something will happen in the middle of the night that you can’t handle alone. 

HERE'S WHAT YOU

MIGHT NOT KNOW

 

  • Our First Responder is likely to have an Operational Stress Injury at some point in their career.

    You can get ahead of it. With awareness of signs and proactive strategies you can set your family up for resilience to ride the wave when it comes. 
  • Secondary Stress can happen to us as First Responder Spouses and Children 

    If you are in the mess of it, living with a First Responder with an Operational Stress Injury, you can learn strategies to support you and your children to be less emotionally impacted. 
  • You are NOT alone

    Feeling seen and heard by other First Responder Spouses who get it, encourages us on our path. We do not feel alone and learn from each other's experiences. 
  • It is possible to become a Family Stress Team 

    Your children are watching how you handle stress. As a family you can work together to decrease stress in your home. You can learn language and tools to diffuse the tornado and get rid of the eggshells. 
  •  Change starts with You

    Whether your marriage feels disconnected or at a breaking point, it takes one person working on themselves to impact positive relationship changes. We can only control how we show up. 

Even though the motivation to overcome stress is clear, the path to actually doing it is anything but

YOUR FAMILY MATTERS  

TO YOU. YOUR PARTNER. YOUR CHILDREN.

Your First Responder starts their career. They are excited and eager to make a difference. You are proud and supportive.

Overtime you notice changes they are negative, moody, detached, have a distant stare and glazed over look. They no longer want to socialize or do the things they once enjoyed. They sometimes come home from work like a tornado and get defensive easily. They have flash anger that comes out of nowhere.

You are overwhelmed, doing all the things to care for your First Responder Family, while working and volunteering to help others. You are exhausted, resentful your partner is not around to help and when he is not emotionally present to support. You are lonely, sad and do not bring concerns forward to your First Responder to avoid an argument. 

Your kids are starting to withdraw or become clingy. You notice they have anxiety and changes in their sleep, appetite, school performance and relationships with peers. They have a harder time staying calm, screaming, tantrums, aggression or they emotionally shut down. They try to please their First Responder Parent to not upset them.

You keep trying to go on. It gets harder. You know there is an issue and it's not fair to your kids and you to walk on eggshells. 

When you reach out you are told to leave your First Responder if you are unhappy. That is not your goal. You want a path, guide and community to support navigating your First Responder Family to healing, wellness, peace and resilience.

Growing and healing together as a First Responder Family leads to discovering new possibilities, a greater appreciation of each other and life, deep connection, feeling alive, energized, compassionate and strategies to maintain resilience throughout life's challenges. 

You can get ahead of Operational Stress

You Can Be Prepared To Handle The Stressors Of This Lifestyle

Seasoned First Responder Families within the community will share their experiences. Through their stories you will be able to identify stressors in your First Responder Family. Mini Trainings on Operational and Secondary Stress will stretch your awareness of how it happens and what to do. 

Imagine the impact on your First Responder Family by noticing the signs early and getting ahead of it.

There is hope if you are in the mess of Operational & Secondary Stress.

Healing Ourselves First Leads to Healing In Our First Responder Family

It is a common experience that First Responder Spouses show up in my office telling me that their First Responder didn’t want to attend therapy, or they feel like they are the only one changing. This is hard!

I have good news. We know that when one person changes in a relationship, their partner will also begin to change.

This means that you don’t have to wait until the other person is ready. Take charge of you and your wellness – and I know that you can change the dynamic in your relationship.

Now imagine a space where you were growing and changing. Now that’s exciting. 

We can heal within community. As we heal we support others.

Community Who Gets It

Feeling seen, heard and having safety to connect about hard things is an important aspect of resilience.

It is important it is to be a part of a vibrant community of like-minded First Responder Spouses who know how tough it can be and the unique stressors of this lifestyle. 

Imagine no longer struggling alone but finding support from people who get it and have been there. 

Our children will be adaptable and resilient through challenges.

Your Children Can Thrive

You have not damaged your children. Creating a family tool box of resilience strategies sets them up for success to navigate challenges they face as they grow.

Imagine your children being emotionally and relationally skilled by learning strategies from you that you learn in Resilience Academy.

What we feed, where we invest our time and energy, thrives. 

You Can Find Time To Invest In You And Your First Responder Family

There will never be a best time to make changes in yourself or your First Responder Family. The best time to start? Is now. 

You don’t have to clear your schedule to make changes. You can change what happens within yourself and your family in small bite size pieces. It is in the small, daily changes that add up over time. 

So instead of trying to think of the big retreat, or the hours in therapy, think about the small moments you have every day.

You Can Thrive As A First Responder Family

Whether you are a New First Responder Family or

A Seasoned One, 

There is a seat at the table for you!

 

"Until I found this program my experiences reaching out for support  were not helpful. This world is unique and this program helped us feel understood as a First Responder Family."

TONYA, FIRST RESPONDER SPOUSE

"It has been a great fit, being able to work in a looser timeframe.  I  want you to know how much impact it has had on my husband.  He had a complete “aha” moment in just the first module.  He told me he never knew how much his PTSD diagnosis was affecting our family and he vowed to put into practice the tools he had learnt.  I have seen a marked difference in him, and his efforts to universally address the impact of his acquired work injury.  This program has given us as a couple as well as our family an avenue to safely discuss how we can support each other and how we can work with his injury together.  We as a family are SO grateful! "

NICOLE, FIRST RESPONDER SPOUSE

 

 
I was a little apprehensive in the beginning, to share my family’s journey, online , in particularly to people I had never met before. Though contrary to this, I found the group to be a very safe environment, helping me to let my guard down and talk openly with people who have experienced and are experiencing similar things to me. Kim created a safe environment, and the other group members are extremely supportive. I felt very comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings, and found it to be empowering to know that I am not alone in what Our family has been going through. I always look forward to the Zoom conversations and connecting with other amazing first responder partners.
 
KAYLENE, FIRST RESPONDER SPOUSE
"Being a First Responder Family, we have our own unique joys and struggles.  When our family was in the thick of the impact of PTSI, I tried many avenues to help get us all back on track.  Counselling, reading books, researching, and they all helped but the biggest impact and when I felt I could do this was when I connected with other first responder spouses.  Hearing someone else describe their household, their fears, their challenges and hear that they are similar to mine made me realize we weren't alone in this.  Our normal isn't normal to others but to those who experience it, it is.  To know there is hope from other's stories and strategies, to be able to be heard and vulnerable with others who knew exactly how I felt, and to be able to see the various stages amongst other families was the sliver of light I needed."
MELISSA, FIRST RESPONDER SPOUSE

Introducing

First Responder Spouse Resilience Academy

Your First Responder goes to the Academy for their career.

This is the Academy for your family to thrive in the career lifestyle.

Imagine a space where you can meet with other First Responder Spouses having them show up in your space walking you through the challenges we all face as First Responder Families.

A space where you can access the tools for you and your First Responder Family, delivered to you in the comfort of your own home, in bite size pieces that you could put into place immediately. 

No more overwhelm. 

Not one more thing to do. 

Hi I'm Kim, just like you I am a First Responder Spouse. My husband developed PTSD, I experienced Secondary Stress. 

As a trauma therapist, I have been working with individuals and families for 24 years in trauma, mental health and addictions.

With training from some of the world renowned therapists, my passion is to support First Responder Families in making meaningful resilient changes every single day.

RESILIENCE ACADEMY is a rare opportunity to enjoy the many benefits of an on-going support group comprised of other Female First Responders, First Responder Wives & Girlfriends who truly know what your life is like!

Order by Midnight October 6th, 2020 and I Will Also Give You Special Members Only Access To

Powerful Bonuses:

  • FOUR weeks walking through the first crucial steps of your amazing RESILIENCE journey
  • Discounted 1:1 Coaching Packages for Resilience Academy Members
  • All in addition to the Monthly Teaching Videos, BiMonthly Resilience Academy Zooms, Special Access to Previous Resilience Academy Video Library and Secret Facebook Group.

And All for Resilience Academy Members Only!

Take me up on my invitation to join RESILIENCE ACADEMY.

It's a decision that only you can make.

So, before you do, let me ask you..

 

What do you have to lose?

  • Another year of fear or isolation?
  • Another year of pretending and silence?
  • Another year of neglecting your mind, body and spirit?

 

 

Here's How We Will Get You There

 

  • Live Connection Sessions:

    Each month we will host TWO group online private sessions to build community, ask questions, share challenges and successes and learn how to apply new tools within your First Responder Family.  

    Conversation over coffee with other First Responders, Wives and Girlfriends who have been there and get it.

    As a First Responder Spouse and Trauma Therapist, I will be by your side cheering you on, believing in you, empowering you and helping you get unstuck. I offer discounted 1-on-1 sessions for members.

  • Expert Guest Speakers:

Each month a recorded interview with a First Responder Expert is released on our website. We have interviewed Dr. Ellen Kirschman, Cyndi Doyle and others you can access right away.

  • Community:

Join our Private Facebook community for Resilience Academy members only. A space for you to breathe and feel empowered, a place in which we hold space for each other and lift each other up. 
  • Monthly Challenge

    Learn one bite size resilience practice you can focus on each month to communicate, connect and thrive. We know you are busy and have developed the information to be delivered by video, audio and handouts to help you fit it in where you can, when you can. 

 

 

Monthly Plans Cancel Anytime

No hard feelings. If this isn't for you, cancel at anytime.

This is a charter membership. The price may change in future offerings. However, for as long as you maintain your monthly membership your price remains

Annual Plans 

Good news, you have 14 days to try out the membership to attend the live sessions, ask your questions, and complete the worksheets. 

If for any reason you’re not satisfied with Resilience Academy you can receive a full refund when you request it within 14 days after your purchase. Simply contact our support team and we will process the refund within a few days. 

Purchase with confidence... it's risk-free!

Here’s What You Get As A Member of The Resilience Academy:

  • Monthly Teaching Video
  • Bi-Monthly Resilience Academy Zoom Sessions
  • Expert Guest Speakers
  • Teaching Video Vault 
  • Most Importantly Community To Walk Together In Hard Things

Total Value: $500

When you add it all up, that’s a value of $500 

But when you enroll today, you’ll get access to everything for just:

Pay Monthly

Monthly Payments of

$27 USD/mo

ENROLL + PAY MONTHLY

OR

Two Months Free

One Annual Payment

$22.50 USD/mo

PAY IN FULL + SAVE

Frequently Asked Questions

What people asked before signing up for First Responder Spouse Resilience Academy.

I hear you! 

And I also know that therapy is expensive! It is why there needs to be other options for women to access the key tools to help strengthen their relationship. We know the rates of divorce continue to remain around 50%! In order to ensure that we are not tailspinning into distress, we need to get help.. and to start early.

Now let me ask you this. Imagine what it would be like where you are prioritizing you and your relationship?

What price would you put on a happy relationship? Being able to communicate effectively? And feeling close and connected as a First Responder Family?

I get it. This time in your life is busy. 

There will never be a best time to make changes in yourself or your relationship. 

The best time to start? 

Is now. 

Here is what you need to know. You don’t have to clear your schedule to make changes. You can change what happens within yourself and your relationship in small bite size pieces. It is in the small, daily changes that add up over time. 

So instead of trying to think of the big retreat, or the hours in therapy, think about the small moments you have every day.

It is a common experience that women show up in my office telling me that their partner didn’t want to come for couples therapy, or they feel like they are the only one changing. This is hard!

I have good news. We know that when one person changes in a relationship, their partner will also begin to change.

This means that you don’t have to wait until the other person is ready. Take charge of you and your wellness – and I know that you can change the dynamic in your relationship.

Now imagine a space where you were growing and changing. Now that’s exciting. 

This membership group is facilitated by me, Kimberly Williamson, First Responder Spouse for 19 years, mom of three, trauma therapist and social worker in clinical practice. I have over 24 years of direct experience with clients. As a First Responder Family we have been through PTSD, Secondary Stress and built resilience in our family. You are getting access to and tools from a highly trained professional using evidence-based tools to deliver outcomes to impact your First Responder Family. The information is tailored for the group, and will continue to grow with the demands of the academy. This means that you get to help shape the help that you need! 

My content is meant to be delivered in bite size pieces, available to you whenever or wherever you are. This means that it is mobile friendly! Take some of those quiet moments you have to invest in yourself and your family while learning in the Resilience Academy site instead of endless scrolling on Facebook, Insta or Twitter.

Yes! I often recommend additional resources to clients in therapy. The reason? We know that the real work comes in the reflection and day to day moments outside of therapy. Use The Resilience Academy to help you solidify what you are talking about in therapy. A bonus? Bring up some of these areas of insight and growth with your therapist!

It’s easy. Three simple steps! 1. Click on the Payment button you choose monthly or annually. It will open up an order form. 2. Complete the order form. 3. Then on the order form, click on COMPLETE MY PURCHASE button. Within minutes, you’ll be sent the Resilience Academy Welcome Email giving you immediate access to the Member Center. You are now officially a Member of the Resilience Academy!

Once you become a Resilience Academy Member, you’ll receive a Welcome Email that contains a link to the Resilience Academy as well as the Password to gain access. For security, you can change your password at any time.

Good news! No hard feelings. If this isn't for you, cancel at anytime. I

if you chose monthly payments you can cancel any month.

If you paid an annual payment you have 14 days to try out the membership to attend the live sessions, ask your questions, and complete the worksheets. When you show up and put the tools in action, you will begin to see how your relationship could be different – in your own experiences and in your partnership. If after the first thirty days you join you are unhappy, a full refund will be granted to you. 

You have access to the material as long as you are a member of the group. All materials are downloadable, so that means that you will be able to save the material for a lifetime.

Fear is completely normal when it comes to doing something different. This emotion is telling you that you are about to do something important. And my advice to you is to LEAN INTO FEAR.

Notice that this fear is coming up for you. Now I want you to imagine a dear friend. What would you say to them if they said they were afraid that they wouldn’t change. Can you try saying this to yourself?

Email your questions and I will be available in our exclusive membership community with LIVE question and answer sessions. If you can’t make the live sessions (because I know life is busy!), send me your questions in advance! You’ll be able to watch it at your own time.  

I will also be jumping into the community to post and answer questions in there. I am loving the community that we are building – and I want you to be a part of it! I will definitely be there! And I hope you will join this academy too.

This depends largely on how much time you spend doing the exercises and putting them into place in your life and your relationship.

But here’s the thing. Change takes time. We know that on average, clients in individual therapy begin to see changes at session 8. For couples therapy, it takes on average 16 sessions of therapy to see changes.

While this is NOT therapy, I think it’s important to set realistic expectations. Change also depends on the willingness of YOU to try something different. But there’s good news – with the on-going support of our EXCLUSIVE MEMBERSHIP COMMUNITY, you will continue to get the support you need to help you make changes. 

New or long-time partner, there is never a wrong time to learn how you can show up as your true self in your relationship, enhance your connection and manage the stressors of this lifestyle. In fact, I encourage all new couples to learn their patterns of resilience in the First Responder community and connecting at the early stages of their relationship – this can help set you up for a life time of connection, happiness and resilience.

 

This membership will address the specific challenges that women face as a First Responder Spouse. 

This program will help you learn skills to improve your relationships within your family, including your partnership as a couple. When you start to change, your partner will start to change too. And bonus? Your partner can absolutely do the exercises and watch the videos with you.

While this membership is specifically for women as that has been the expressed need from our community, we are open to creating programs for male partners, couples or extended family in the future based on interest.

 

 

Resilience Academy: a place to build community and learn resilience strategies to thrive as a First Responder Family

 


Resilience Academy is PERFECT for you if…

  1. You are a First Responder Girlfriend, Partner or Spouse.
  2. You are a NEW First Responder Family wanting to gain awareness on how to cope with this lifestyle. 
  3. OR you are in the MESS of the stress as a First Responder Family and want tools that work now.
  4. OR you are a SEASONED First Responder Family wondering how to transition to retirement. 
  5. You are looking for a community who gets this lifestyle where you can be heard, seen and grow together.
  6. You are ready to feel energized, engaged in life, peace in your home and have deeper connection in your First Responder Family.
  7. You are aware change starts with YOU. Before we can have the partnership we want we need to do our work on how we show up.
  8. You are ready to take the actions needed to impact your First Responder Family in developing RESILIENCE.

If you said “yes” to at least 3 of the above, I can’t wait to meet you inside Resilience Academy

 

Here’s What You Get As A Member of The Resilience Academy:

  • Monthly Teaching Video
  • Bi-Monthly Resilience Academy Zoom Sessions
  • Expert Guest Speakers
  • Teaching Video Vault 
  • Most Importantly Community To Walk Together In Hard Things

Total Value: $500/ month

When you add it all up, that’s a value of $500/ month

But when you enroll today, you’ll get access to everything for just:

Payment Monthly

Monthly Payments of

$27 USD/mo

ENROLL + PAY MONTHLY

OR

Two Months Free

One Annual Payment

$22.50 USD/mo

PAY IN FULL + SAVE

REMEMBER: When you join today, you also get access to the Extra Bonuses:

 

  • FOUR weeks walking through the first crucial steps of your amazing RESILIENCE journey
  • Discounted 1:1 Coaching Packages for Resilience Academy Members
  • All in addition to the Monthly Teaching Videos, BiMonthly Resilience Academy Zooms, Special Access to Previous Resilience Academy Video Library and Secret Facebook Group.

And All for Resilience Academy Members Only!

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